Designing Kitchens and Bathrooms - Wrong cabinet hinges???

We bought new cabinet doors that have no grooving in them--just flat pieces of oak basically, which cover the cabinet frame about 3/4 inch all the way around. Previous doors were partially inset. Purchased hinges that were NOT inset but still, once screwed to the back of the doors and to the frame, they make the hinge side of the doors stand away from the cupboard frame nearly 1/4 inch while the other side is flush with the frame. Did we get the wrong hinges? Husband says maybe he can route out the back of the door where the hinge goes but I think that would be a disaster. I love these mission style oak doors and painted the cupboard frame white and got white hinges. Any help will be much appreciated and the sooner the better before a divorce takes place--or worse!

Please don't get divorced over cabinet doors - there are too many other good reasons ;)

If you have doors that cover the cabinet opening by 3/4", you need to make sure that the hinges you bought are specifically for 3/4" overlay doors. Hinges for overlay doors anywhere from 1/4" to 1 1/2" are available, and if you have a 3/4" overlay door and use a hinge that is made for a 1/4" overlay (for example), the door will probably bind against the front of the cabinet while opening and closing. If they are adjustable, cranking the screw all the way out may help, but the door will sit farther away from the cabinet.

Overlay doors need to have some space on hinge side for clearance, and the opening side of the door normally has bumpers so the door doesn't make the slamming sound when closing. These bumpers usually make that side of the door stick out about 1/8". Maybe you can just add some bumpers (available at home improvment stores) to the opening side to make them closer to being even?

Your doors and hinge style are called flush overlay and the felt bumper pads will also prevent maring.